I Keep Saving Rest for Later. Later Never Comes.
There's usually a window. The boys are occupied for a bit, the day job is off, and the house is actually quiet enough to sit down. I almost never sit down. I open the laptop. I start the thing I've been meaning to get to all week. I tell myself I'll rest when this one thing is done.
It is never done.
I used to think that was just what a full life looks like. A job, two little boys, something you're trying to build on the side. Of course you're tired. Of course you keep moving. Rest felt like the thing you get after you earn it, and I hadn't earned it yet. Underneath that, if I'm honest, is a quieter fear: if I stop, I'll fall behind. Behind on the work. Behind on the thing I'm building. Behind some version of the man I think I'm supposed to be by now.
Not Because the Work Isn't Real. Because I Was Waiting to Deserve It.
Not because the work isn't real. Because I kept treating rest like a prize for finishing a list that does not end. My wife is better at this than I am. She'll actually stop. I'll find another hour to fill.
That's also not what I say I believe.
Jesus said this to people who were so busy they didn't even have time to eat.
Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." Mark 6:31
He didn't tell them to finish first. He pulled them out while the crowd was still coming.
The Hour I Keep Spending Twice
Reflection doesn't give me a day off. What it does is slower than that. On the mornings I've actually written down how tired I am, I catch myself before I open the laptop. Not because I suddenly became a restful man. Because I'd already named, on paper, that I was treating the only quiet hour of the week like another shift.
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Still Learning to Stop
I'm not writing this because I've solved it. Most weeks I still fill the gap. But I'm becoming less interested in earning rest and more interested in practicing it, even when the list is still there. Especially then.
Some days I close the laptop. Some I don't, and I have to own that the next morning instead of pretending I didn't have a choice.
That's not becoming a man who has it figured out. That's just learning to live into the rest I keep saying I believe in, the next time the window shows up.
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Trent Jones is the author of the Forged Agents blog and builder of "Reflect", a daily reflection companion for living in the present, in peace, with joy.
